#尋人啟事
#胡湘荷妳在哪裡
我的母親已八十歲,
疫情期間,
母親常在電話跟我聊一些過去的事情,
母親的記憶力非常好,
從她十歲開始到現在,
她幾乎能記得所有的事情。
當然,
她記的幾乎都是些令人心碎的事。
就像她的妹妹_
我的小阿姨,
跟她失聯了四十三年的事,
一直讓母親忘不了。
小阿姨屬猴,
64歲、
1956年出生。
大約1977年離開緬甸,
去到泰國投靠大舅,
又輾轉在1978年左右去了加拿大。
之後,
就失去了聯絡。
自從有網路以來,
我就幫忙母親在各種尋人版上刊登過尋人啟事,
但都沒有下文。
可能是刊登的資訊不齊全。
四十三年前,
小阿姨從緬甸到泰國又到加拿大,
可能證件、姓名等都跟原本的不一樣了。
近期,
與我母親通話,
母親又提到失聯的小阿姨。
她叮嚀我們是否能幫忙她再找找看。
母親今年八十歲,
她很想知道她的小妹,
是否還活在這世界上?
附上母親說的話,
她讓我公佈在網路上。
希望有緣,
我的小阿姨能看到。
Midi 於永和
2020 April 12
#胡湘荷
#尋人
胡湘荷,妳在哪裡?
阿湘,
我是妳的二姐胡明珠。
我們分別有好長一段時間了。
妳離開緬甸時,
我二兒子才剛出生,
都還不滿一個月,
妳來看他時,
還說:
「他的臉白白的,
是不是我給他擦粉?」
現在,
我二兒子四十三歲,
我呢,
已經快滿八十二歲,
八十多歲,
是老人了。
人家說,
人愈老記性愈差,
我是相反,
我的記性反倒是愈老愈好。
但是,我能記住的,
都是些傷心的事情。
也許,
我們這代人,
也沒有什麼快樂的事情可以記住。
就像妳的離開,
我們從此失去聯絡,
想起妳,
就讓我難過。
妳還活著嗎?
我想妳會活得好好的。
妳有幾個小娃了?
過得怎麼樣呢?
四十三年前,
妳離開腊戌時,
妳還在腊戌漢人學校唸書。
有天放學,
我去攔住妳,
跟妳說:
「妳以後每天下課後就來我家吃飯,
別去大姐家吃了…」
妳說:「好」。
妳也就跟著我到我家吃飯了。
我還記得,
妳才剛坐下,
我不知怎麼搞的,
就說了那些話。
我說:
「大姐讓妳以後來我這裡吃飯,
別去她家吃了,
讓妳三姐去她家吃,
妳三姐不挑嘴,
妳比較挑嘴…」。
這些話,
是大姐跟我說的,
我當時太懵,
太老實,
我也不曉得,
為什麼要說這些大姐講的話?
為什麼要講給妳聽?
我完全,
沒有擔待不了妳的意思呀。
不管多窮,
姐妹間互相照顧都是應該的,
我轉述大姐說妳的那些話,
是沒有任何理由的,
就是我以為是姐妹之間的聊天,
講出來而已。
我那時候過得很困難,
養著六個小娃,
病死了兩個。
但是,
照顧自己的妹妹是天經地義的。
那天,
我邊說就邊到廚房去炒菜,
難得妳來這裡吃飯,
總要多一樣什麼菜才行。
我炒完菜端著出來,
妳就不見了。
當時,
房東許老嬤嬤還在場,
她說,
「我轉進廚房,
妳就站起來走了…」
我那時才發覺;
我講錯話了。
妳這麼敏感的人呀!
我一路追著妳,
追到大水塘路上_
到妳跟妳三姐住的地方,
妳正在哭。
妳正在哭著跟妳三姐吵架,
妳跟妳三姐說:
「二哥寄來的錢分來…」
妳三姐不敢應妳,
在旁沉默著。
這筆妳要的錢,
確實是妳二哥寄來給妳們兩姐妹的生活費。
那時,
媽媽剛去世不久,
大哥人去了泰國;
在泰國北部滿堂安了家,
家裡所有的兄弟陸續去了泰國。
而爸爸因為沒身份證在貴概被移民局抓住,
送到仰光坐滿九年牢,
緬甸政府正打算著把他送到台灣去的時候…
那天,
我看著妳哭,
我就明白了妳的心情。
妳三姐在準備跟她愛人私奔,
在腊戌妳也只有大姐、我和妳三姐了。
我和大姐早結婚,
各自已有有家庭。
如今妳三姐又要嫁人,
大哥他們又遠在泰國,
母親去世,
父親坐牢。
妳接下來就要孤苦零丁的一個人生存了。
一個十八歲的女孩。
我知道妳的害怕和難過。
那天,
看著妳哭,
我很後悔把大姐說的話講出來。
妳應該了解我的。
我一直都盡力照顧我的家人,
當時從雲南背著妳逃難到緬甸邊境,
背了一天一夜。
我都是自願的。
妳記得嗎?
妳到腊戌讀書時,
很想要一條件仔褲,
那時許多人都買不起,
我還是費盡力氣買給妳。
妳知道我是心疼妳的。
妳離開腊戌的那天,
妳說妳要去泰國了。
臨走時,
我拿了300塊錢給妳,
妳知道嗎?
那時候我拿出300塊錢緬幣是到處借來的錢呀。
阿湘,
我知道妳一直都在受苦,
去到泰國,
大嫂可能待不得妳,
妳二哥、三哥他們當時也沒能力照顧妳,
妳在泰國又沒有合法的身份;
哪可能有其它去處。
最後妳選擇結婚,
我想也只是為了解脫這些難過的生活罷了。
之後,
就聽說妳嫁了人,
跟著丈夫家去了加拿大。
之後,
我就再也就打聽不到妳的下落了。
我們最後的連繫,
停留在泰國北部滿堂,
或是停留在泰緬邊境美賽,
我都有些記不得了。
那時,
聽說妳從大哥家跑出來了?
又聽說妳去暫住在一對老年夫妻的家裡?
這些,
都是後來傳到腊戌的消息了。
妳去加拿大前,
還寄來給我和大姐和妳三姐每個人一件衣裳布、
一條籠基。
三份禮物裡夾著三張白紙,
寫著:「大姐的、二姐的、三姐的…」。
我還記得,
那是託「義號佛堂」楊前人帶來的禮物。
那條籠基到現在我還留著_
孔雀花紋的。
阿湘,
我這個作二姐的也羞愧妳了。
當時,
聽到這些關於妳的困難的消息,
只能每天想念著,
想到傷心,
我沒有任何能力。
那時,
我是,
連從緬甸腊戌到泰國邊境的車票都買不起呀。
當時我養著這麼多小娃,
吃一口飯都難。
阿湘,
現在講這些都只是回憶了,
都是我們老人家的回憶,
都不重要了。
那為什麼還要講這些呢?
就是,
為了,
想讓妳看到,
看到這些我說的話,
證實,
我是妳的二姐而已。
想讓妳知道,
我一直在找妳。
我活到八十歲,
夠了,
人活這麼老沒什麼意思,
都盡是傷心的事情。
我不知哪天會死去。
但如果可能的話,
在死去之前,
能讓我知道一下妳的消息。
我想知道,
妳在哪裡?
我想知道,
妳還活著嗎?
阿湘,
爸爸十幾年前已經去世,
大哥六年前去世,
連大姐,
前年也不在世上了。
妳二哥;
他住在泰國山邊荒地裡,
幫人家看田地,
過得不是很好,
但也不用擔心,
我在泰國的二兒子和大姑娘時常會去照顧他。
妳三哥,
講到也是讓我難過呀。
他大前年腦出血,
去醫院醫好了,
但醫好後,
很奇怪,
突然忘記了漢人話,
只會講泰國話。
後來不久,
他就偷偷上吊自殺了。
你說,
我們兄弟姐妹這是什麼樣的命運呢?
阿湘,
我們家沒剩下什麼人了,
妳三姐、妳四哥還在泰國。
還有我,
我還活著。
我還在緬甸,在腊戌。
除了妳,
我們一家人也就剩下這三個人了。
阿湘,
我們已經分別已四十三年,
妳也有六十多歲了吧?
我很想知道,
妳在哪裡?
妳還活著嗎?
如果有緣,
妳看到這信,
就回我一下吧。
妳的二姐胡明珠,
日日夜夜,
在等妳的消息。
二姐胡明珠 於緬甸腊戌
2020 年4月11日
姪Midi代筆
找人信箱:humingju1638@gmail.com
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#notice for a missing person
translated by Jane Lin
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Where are you, Hu Shine-Ho?
Ah-Shine,
This is your 2nd sister, Hu Ming-Ju. It has been a long time since we last saw each other. When you left Burma, my 2nd son was not even one-month-old. You asked why he was so fair-skinned? Had I put powder on his face? Now, he is 43 and I am almost 82.
Eighty something...I am indeed an old woman! People say that you lose your memory as you age. I am quite the opposite. The older I get, the better I remember! But, what I remember is nothing but sadness. Perhaps, our generation just doesn't have much happiness. Like you leaving home, we losing contact forever…. The thought of you puts me in such despair. Are you still alive? I imagine you living a good life?!! How many children? How are you?
Forty-three years ago, you were still a student at Chinese High School in Lashio. One day after school, I went to intercept you, "From now on, come to my home after school. Don't go to 1st sister's for dinner anymore." You said, "OK" and followed me home.
I still remember clearly that you had just sat down and I said, "The first sister asks that you come to me for dinner. She will take 3rd sister who's easy-going, not like you, a picky eater." I don't know what possessed me that day? Why I had to tell you what 1st sister had to say? Was I too naive? Too honest? Too stupid? I had absolutely no intension not to take care of you - we are sisters!!!! We have to care for each other, no matter how poor we are!!! The first sister's words just came out as a casual chat between sisters. Nothing more!
Life was tough for me at the time. Diseases took away two of my six children. But that didn't mean I would ignore my God-given responsibility as your elder sister. Without realizing the impact of my "casual chat", I went into the kitchen wondering what additional dish I could come up with for your first dinner with us. When I came out with the dishes, you were already gone! According to our landlady, Granny Hsu, you just got up and left as soon as I was out of sight. Only then did I realize my stupid mistake and how sensitive you were! Immediately, I ran after you, all the way to Big Pond Road where you and 3rd sister stayed. You were crying, asking 3rd sister for the money that 2nd brother sent. 3rd sister just kept quiet.
Indeed! The money that you demanded from 3rd sister was to cover living expenses for both of you. At that time, Mother had already passed away. The first brother went to Thailand, had already settled his own family in Pong Ngam. All the brothers followed suit. Father got caught in Kutkai by the immigration for not having an I.D. and had been in prison in Rangoon for 9 years. The Burmese government was just about to send him to Taiwan…. That day, while watching you cry, I understood how you felt. The third sister was getting ready to run away with her lover and both 1st sister and I were married young with our own families to deal with. As an 18-year-old with no mother, a father in prison, you must have felt all alone, sad and very scared.
I was filled with regrets watching you that day. But, please understand that I have always tried my best to take care of my family. When we escaped from Yunnan to Burma as refugees, I carried you on my back all day and all night without any complaints. When you went to Lashio for school, you wanted a pair of jeans so badly, remember? It was such a luxury that most people could not afford. Yet, I gathered all my might to get you a pair. You know I always have a soft spot for you, don't you? The day you were leaving Lashio for Thailand, do you know how many places I had to try to gather 300 Burmese kyats for you???
Ah-Shine, I know it was a huge struggle for you in Thailand. It's impossible that 1st sister-in-law would put you up. Second and 3rd brothers were in no position to help you….. I suppose you were pushed into marriage, just to end this desperate situation. Last I heard, you moved to Canada with your husband. From that point onward, in spite of all the efforts, I just couldn't find any trace of your whereabouts.
Our last contact stopped at Pong Ngam, Thailand. Or, was it MaeSai? I can't quite remember now. The news came to Lashio that you had run away from 1st brother's home. Later, you were temporarily staying with an older couple….
Before leaving for Canada, you sent, via Abbott Yang of the Yi Buddhist Hall, a package for us - each gift had a piece of dress fabric and a longyi, clearly labeled on a piece of white paper: "for 1st sister," "for 2nd sister," "for 3rd sister." I still have that longyi, with a peacock pattern, after all these years!
Ah-Shine, I feel deeply embarrassed to be your elder sister. Upon hearing the challenges that you had to face at the time, I could do nothing but worrying and feeling sad. I couldn't even afford the bus fare from Lashio to the Thai border. I barely managed to feed my own children!
Ah-Shine, What's the use of talking about these old memories? These sad memories of us old people have no importance but to serve to show you that I am indeed your 2nd sister.… that I have been looking for you all these years.
To live in my eighties is more than enough for me. It's not much fun to live this long - just a lifetime of sadness. I have no idea when I will die and I don't really care. I just wish that I could hear from/about you before I leave this world. I want to know where you are. I want to know if you are still alive.
Ah-Shine, Father passed away more than a decade ago. The first brother left us 6 years ago, so did the first sister 3 years ago. The second brother works as a field caretaker in a remote Thai mountainside. It's not a good life, but both my 2nd son and first daughter are also in Thailand; can visit and take care of him often. The saddest is our 3rd brother. He had a stroke 3 years ago. After recovery, he suddenly forgot his Chinese, could only speak in Thai. Not long after, he hanged himself! Please tell me what kind of fate has been bestowed on our siblings??? What is the meaning of life???
Ah-Shine, There aren't that many of us left, only 3rd sister and 4th brother in Thailand and me still in Burma. In Lashio.
Ah-Shine, We have been apart for 43 years. You should be in your 60s by now. I really would like to know if you are still alive and where you live. God willing, you will see this letter and reply!!! (humingju1638@gmail.com)
Waiting to hear from you, day and night!
Second sister, Hu Ming-Ju
Lashio, Myanmar
April 11. 2020
no big deal意思 在 Eddie Tam 譚新強 Facebook 的精選貼文
譚新強:誠意邀請特首出席慶祝「真•撤回」宴
【明報專訊】林鄭終於「真·撤回」逃犯條例修訂,當然是好事,但亦帶出一些問題。政府既然堅持了3個月都不撤回,其間香港因此經歷了前所未見的動亂,為何突然宣布正式撤回?
表面答案當然是政府終於體會到單靠拖延、武力鎮壓,甚至所謂「派糖」,都不會成功停止所有動亂,所以嘗試釋出善意,答應示威者部分訴求。如果這就是真正理由,更令人極度懷疑和擔心政府的能力。雖然林鄭從6月中已多番在公開場合和洩漏錄音中承認犯下嚴重錯誤,但似乎仍未汲取絲毫教訓,所以一直堅拒「真·撤回」。她的「語言偽術」,甚麼「壽終正寢」、The bill is dead等廢話,不止浪費了3個月的寶貴時間,更當然直接激發本來尚算和平的示威遊行,變質成為一場暴力的逆權運動。社會上出現各種令人痛心的暴力行為(當然仍需負上刑責),令到社會嚴重撕裂、極度不穩定、挑戰法治、針對警察、嚴重傷害香港國際形象,亦令中美關係更複雜化。如果林鄭在6月初就從善如流,不作無謂之爭,直接答應撤回,那麼香港極可能可以逃過這場無聊的浩劫。
林鄭語言偽術浪費寶貴3個月
有些人的想法比較玄,認為政府早看穿整個局勢,但認為「要來的,一定遲早都會來」,所以一直拖延,拒絕撤回。意思是不撤回是個故意的決定,蓄意激發社運,目的是看清楚反對派憎恨政府的程度、人數、分類、「底牌」和真正訴求等。我認為此解釋極度牽強,如果是真,更令人心寒,政府的愚蠢程度已超越常人的想像。此說法有如治療癌病和愛滋等病症,既然沒有根治的方法,所以即使可用各種藥物來控制病情,也故意不用,就讓病情自由惡化,然後再算吧!這個說法當然非常荒謬,因為如故意讓病情惡化,可甚至爆發出其他併發症,到時病入膏肓,恐怕病人已救不過來了。
除了這個解釋,坊間亦流傳其他各種理論,包括為即將來臨的國慶粉飾太平、企圖防止美國國會通過制裁中國的《Hong Kong Human Rights and Democracy Act of 2019》(《香港人權及民主法案》)等。有人甚至指出前天特首林鄭的演說,表情和聲音都極不自然,有點AI(人工智能)加CGI(電腦合成影像)的味道,懷疑用了類似近日火爆換臉App—ZAO的技術!
我無意逐一探討每個陰謀論的可信性,我較有興趣研究這次撤回對未來局勢發展的影響。首先最肯定的是整件由修例引發出來的危機,解決方法必須是一個可行,且能穿越2047年的政治方案。但正如我早前分析,基於各種考慮,相信在短期內難推出一個全面政改方案。
基本法行「同股不同權」 每票權重天淵之別
讓我再指出現行一國兩制的一些荒謬地方,亦因此極難令北京放心用現存條件「續約」。先看特首的英文名稱Chief Executive(首席執行官),極不尋常,全世界城市都未見過,企業就當然常見。這名稱已說明本來的構思是把香港打造成一家MNC,類似Muti-National Corporation,改一個字,是一個Multi-National City!只有MNC,才會容許海外「股東」或「持份者」,在股東大會或立法會選舉中投票,甚至讓外國人參選立法會議員。《基本法》甚至要求終審庭必須有最少兩位來自英聯邦國家的外籍法官。最荒謬的是《基本法》竟遠遠走在港交所前面,老早已有「同股不同權」機制!外傭0票,住滿7年的其他外國人和普通香港市民則有1票,本來律師、會計師或大老闆就有兩票。即使到了曾蔭權年代的政改後,外傭繼續0票,普通香港人及外籍人士都有兩票,包括超級區議會,但這些議席是由幾十萬人選出來,跟功能組別的議席,只由數百人甚至只幾十人選出來,每票的權重仍有天淵之別。
所以我認為任何政改,尤其關乎2047年以後的制度,即使保留某形式的一國兩制,都必須解決這些殖民地年代遺留下來的畸形現象。不要以為這是小事,即使不談機制,只談投票資格,其實已關乎可能高達200萬或更多人的投票權,足以影響任何選舉結果。
外傭無居港權 待遇遜十九世紀賣豬仔
外傭人數高達40萬,已佔香港人口5%至6%,不少已在港工作超過7年。我家的其中一位,已服務超過20年,她極想留在香港長居,但奈何法律不賦予居港權,未來當她離職時,仍必須回去菲律賓,這公平嗎?法律權利上,她們面對的待遇,甚至比19世紀中國人「賣豬仔」到美加的華工血淚史更差。他們當年被徵收「人頭稅」,亦不許把太太帶過去,但最少老來可留低,最後法律改變,仍可家庭團聚。
反過來,其他行業的外國人,為數約20萬,即使在各駐港領使館工作的外國人,只要住滿7年,都有永久居留和投票權。這權利應該也是全球獨一無二的,從來未聽過任何國籍的expat(駐外人員),在紐約、倫敦、東京、悉尼等地方有投票權。這畸形特權又公平嗎?合理嗎?
另外擁有加、澳、紐、美、英和其他國籍的香港人,約有100萬,他們又應否繼續有投票權呢?又要否考慮雙重國籍問題呢?
除此,還有BNO護照持有者,又該如果處理呢?1997年回歸時,最高峰時有340萬人,後來發現特區護照更好用,數目就跌至50萬,近日因動亂問題,開始回升。如動盪不停,這數目可輕易反彈至100多萬,因為這是最便宜的半份「移民保險」,雖然1997年後出世的年輕人沒有資格。賭的是雖然當年英國羞恥地沒有賦予所有香港人居英權,但在緊急時刻,即使只持有BNO的香港人抵達英國,6個月到期時,他們會否真的把港人遣返?同樣問題,BNO持有者的投票權又如何?
微調831框架 先改革立會選舉最務實
我沒有最理想答案,但先了解事情的關鍵在那裏,是必須的第一步。我認為最務實的做法是先嘗試改革明年將舉行、爭議較少的立法會選舉的制度,甚至可能暫不需要考慮2047年的期限問題,但可能需要中央稍為修改831框架,容許先修改立法會選舉方法。首先逐步增加民主代表性,譬如考慮取消或最少減少功能組別的議席數目。得到的成果將較實際和有效。如林鄭不辭職(當然是個big if),但正常下一屆特首選舉將在2022年,尚有一點時間,可再深入思考一會,才再正式討論如何普選特首。
但最要小心的是少數示威者的更極端目的,並非民主普選,而是接近無政府的長期混亂,使香港繼續沉淪!沒辦法,對付這批極端份子的手段必須強硬,必須拒絕接受這歪理,不可猶豫,不可妥協,不可茍且,必須糾正這種思想,每個香港人都有責任!
對付極端示威者手段必須強硬
大家較關心的是在短期內,這次撤回,會否有助把局勢降溫,還是反而鼓勵反對行動變得更激烈。我沒有答案,需要繼續觀察未來數天、數周的事態發展。但肯定的是,即使短期內社會逐漸稍為平靜下來,但社會的「病」仍未根治,必將復發。
全球傳媒和市場都是ADD(Attention Deficit Disorder)病患者,近日焦點已逐漸離開香港,不是完全忘記,因為這仍是一隻較新的「黑天鵝」。但近日亦要關注亞馬遜雨林大火災,和愈演愈烈的英國脫歐危機,和沒完沒了的中美貿易衝突,這些事的起因都與去全球一體化,有極密切關係。
約翰遜只上台數周,英國已墮入憲政危機。今周多名保守黨議員倒戈相向,投票支持向歐盟申請Brexit再延期至1月底,令到保守黨政府失去大多數執政地位,連約翰遜企圖解散國會,在10月15日舉行提前大選(snap election)的動議都未獲通過。短期內,市場對硬脫歐(No Deal Brexit)的憂慮稍獲紓緩,英鎊有所反彈,美元指數DXY回落至99以下,所以全球股市出現反彈(香港情况也有點幫助)。
但最後Brexit如何收科,誰都沒有答案。在約翰遜領導下,硬脫歐仍是一個非常實在的可能,但國會已頗成功奪權,所以延期而最後達到某種Brexit協議的機會亦不低。本來支持Brexit的工黨,現在竟然接近180度轉變,支持再度公投,如出現,戲劇性逆轉為Bremain(留歐)的機會很大!
脫歐拖延看似壞事 實非如此
眨眼間,Brexit已拖了3年,沒完沒了,看似不好,但其實對大部分英國人來說,拖延未必是壞事。貿易上既有繼續留歐的好處,貨幣上英鎊貶值,對消費不好,但對刺激出口和旅遊業,挺有幫助。但同時在Brexit的威脅底下,相信近年較少來自土耳其和東歐等地的移民會選擇搬去英國!雖不可持久,但最少暫可達到兩全其美效果!
Brexit是場充滿悲哀、瘋狂和諷刺的鬧劇,已拍成電影《Brexit: The Uncivil War》,由班尼狄甘巴貝治(Benedict Cumberbatch)扮演甘明斯(Dominic Cummings),脫歐運動Vote Leave的Campaign Director(運動主任)。經過甘明斯的非正統民調,發現英國人的共同憂慮是Loss of Control(失控予歐盟),而最大的共同恐懼竟是土耳其加入歐盟。他就精準利用這恐懼忽悠國民,恐嚇英國人如土耳其加入歐盟,將有多達7000萬土耳其人搬到英國!但整個土耳其人口才不過8000多萬,此說何其荒謬!
但無論如何,甘明斯等人非常成功地把這個排外想法灌輸入英國人腦海中。到後來,連約翰遜都加入了Vote Leave陣營。最後在公投中,Brexit以52%對48%,輕微勝出。3年後的今天,約翰遜成為了首相,他亦委任了甘明斯成為政府特別顧問。
製造共同恐懼 導致英國人公投脫歐
最諷刺的一點是約翰遜正是土耳其裔人,曾祖父Ali Kemal更曾當奥斯曼帝國的內政部長!有些香港人很崇拜英國,但你能不佩服英國人的愚蠢嗎?莫非這就是英國有名的自嘲式黑色幽默?
我衷心歡迎今次修例的「真·撤回」,亦未有忘記跟友人的新榮記之約。我未來兩周將出門去華盛頓參加每季峰會,今次應有一些特別嘉賓,希望對了解可否打破至關重要的中美貿易談判僵局,和美國政商界最頂層人物如何看香港情况,有點幫助。身為香港人,我亦必盡力解釋香港的錯綜複雜情况,如有需要,更必矯正他們一些對香港局勢的誤解。
回港後,定必款待朋友們享用此「真·撤回」之宴,樂意支持本地經濟。特首既已答應落區走入民間,與市民直接對話,我極希望她賞面,撥冗出席(保安和保險可能是個問題,但應有解決方法)。說不定,酒過三巡,我們這班「普通市民」,或可提供一些尚有些少參考價值的意見!
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【業力的黑洞】THE BLACK HOLE OF KARMA
(一)
「我不是叫你帶筆記本嗎?」
我看著男客人擺在桌上的那僅僅一張A4紙。
男客人不好意思地說:「我忘了。這是跟櫃台取的。」
「我千里迢迢來到這裡,因為你說你要改命。你就拿這樣一張借來的紙,來改命?一個半小時的看八字,夠你寫嗎?還是你不夠寫時,又要浪費我的時間去借紙?你的認真在哪裡?」
我雙眼直視著男客人的眼睛。
他連忙站起來,去借了多幾張A4紙。
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(二)
「你怎麼帶那麼小的本子?夠寫嗎?」
我不可思議的看著,那如信用卡一般大的記事本。
男客人答:「可以啦!我只寫重點!」
「你這個是懶。我的每一句話都是重點。你的八字在我手上,你是怎樣的人,你不要以為我不知道。你不要跟我瞎掰,更不要有寫沒寫的,然後事後又發私訊重覆性的問回我一樣的問題,因為你沒有用心思寫下來。樓上有書店,要嘛你現在去買,我給你十五分鐘,要嘛我們今天就不看你的八字。你自己選。」
男客人十分鐘內,買了A4本子。
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(三)
我為即將結婚的男客人看新家風水。
他來過我的風水講座數次,閱讀我臉書也有兩年多時間,應該很熟悉我的性格。事前,我提醒過他兩次要帶筆記本,兩次兩次他都跟我說謝謝提醒。
站在客廳看風水時,他抽出那張A4的屋子平面圖,壓在手掌心寫。
「我不是已經叫你帶筆記本嗎?」
他笑笑不語,沒有解釋,沒有道歉。
新家風水那麼重要,關係到你和你家人未來至少五年的興旺,你就在這一張軟綿綿的紙上寫兩個小時的筆記嗎?
以我對客人的要求,我本會叫他到外頭買筆記本,我們才繼續看風水。
但那天,現任屋主還住在那個單位,是特別約好時間讓我們進去看風水,對方也在等著我們完事後就要出門。
想想他過去兩年來常在我臉書貼文按讚,就給他一點面子,讓他在女朋友面前好下台,也算是報答他的支持。
於是,我看在眼裡,記在心裡。依我的經驗,沒把筆記寫好的,必會再來問我。
幾天後,他來訊詢問。當中有幾個問題,我當天已解說過。
我回他:「我雖不介意回答已經回答過的問題,但如果你那一天有帶筆記本,你必會抄下來。」
也就不用再問。
我也寫道:「我對你有點失望。」
他回我:「我明白也注意到你的失望。以後會更留意自己的念頭和舉止。」
「你應該跟我道歉。你忽視我的善意提醒本就不對。」
也猶如騙了我。如果你當初不想帶,直說,不要以假謝謝敷衍。
男客人過後道歉,也大方的同意我把這件事情寫出來,警惕大家。
如果你的未來註定會坎坷,無論是婚姻、事業、家庭或財富,你要比任何人都更注意你的一舉一動。
因為你細小的念頭,細微的決定,會一步一步引你掉入你命中註定的歹運。
你會漏掉寫下我千交代萬交代的事情。
你會寫錯、聽錯、記錯、做錯。
你身邊的人會影響你,告訴你不要聽我或任何能幫你改命的話,你如何如何讓她他不開心不舒服。
你會有錢也不要出錢,只是一直想博取我的同情,得到免費的幫助,然後稱說自己沒有錢。
你會任性,你會執著,你會覺得風水命理沒那麼厲害,你自己說了算,雖然你根本不怎麼樣。
因為你已變成一個弦线上的小木偶,被你那無情的業力操控著。
我的嚴厲,是要及時拉你一把,不要「青青菜菜」的過活,不要拖累你的家人和你一起遭業報。
不是每個人跌倒後,都能夠爬得起來。
誰不想做好人,讓每個人都喜歡自己?但自古,慈母多敗兒。
在現今社會裡,男人女人的自信,都是來自於事業,但每個人的幸福,都是源自於家庭。
所以千萬千萬不要自私。
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(1)
“Didn't I tell you to bring a notebook?"
I looked at the lonely piece of A4 paper the male client placed on the table.
Slightly embarrassed, the male client said, "I forgot. This was obtained from the counter."
"I come all the way here because you tell me you want to change your destiny. You bring this kind of paper to change your life? My consultation is 1.5 hour and you think it's enough for you to write? Or when you run out of space, are you going to waste my time to go and borrow paper? Where is your seriousness?"
I looked at the male client straight in the eyes.
He hurriedly stood up and borrowed a few more pieces of A4 paper.
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(2)
"Why did you bring such a small notebook? How is it enough for you to write?"
I looked at the credit-card-sized notebook incredulously.
The male client replied, "Can! I only write the important points!"
"This is your sloth. Everything I said is important. Your Bazi is in my hands. Don't think that I do not know what kind of person you are. Don't talk nonsense to me. Don't write selectively and then later send me PMs asking me the same questions that I have answered in this consultation, just because you didn't put in effort to jot it down. There is a bookshop upstairs. Either you go and buy now. I will give you 15 minutes. Or we will cancel today's consultation. You decide."
The male client returned with a brand new A4 notebook in ten minutes.
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(3)
I was doing a Feng Shui audit for a male client who was getting married.
He came to my Feng Shui workshops a few times and have read my Facebook for over 2 years. Prior to the audit, I reminded him twice to bring a notebook and twice, he thanked me for my reminders.
While standing in the living room doing the Feng Shui audit, he drew out a A4-sized floorplan and wrote on it, with his palm as the backing.
"Didn't I already tell you to bring a notebook?"
He smiled back at me. No explanation. No apology.
The Feng Shui of a new home is so important because it determines the future of your family luck for at least the next 5 years. And you are going to write on this floppy piece of paper for the next 2 hours?
Given my expectations of clients, I would have told him to go and buy a notebook before I continued my audit.
But that day, the current owner was still living in the unit. It was by appointment that we were let in to get the Feng Shui audit done. The family was also waiting for us to finish things up, as they were going out.
I thought of the many times that he had Liked my FB posts these two years. So I decided to give him some face, and not make things difficult for him in front of his girlfriend. Also a very tiny way of me thanking him for his support all these while.
Hence, I put this incident in my heart. From my experience, I know that anyone who did not write the notes well will definitely come back to ask me again.
A few days later, he sent me messages, some of which were raising the same questions that I had explained on the day of the audit.
I told him, "While I do not mind answering the same questions again, if you had brought a notebook that day, you would have written it down."
You and I would not need to repeat ourselves again.
I also wrote, "I am slightly disappointed in you."
His reply, "Well noted on your disappointment. Will pay attention to own thoughts/actions for better changes."
"You should apologise to me. It is wrong of you to ignore my reminders to bring a notebook."
This is akin to lying to me. If you do not wish to bring, say it outright. Don't brush me off with perfunctory thanks.
He did apologised later and graciously gave me the permission to write about this, to remind my readers.
If your future is destined to be difficult, be it in your marriage, career, family or wealth, you must be extra observant of your every action and deed.
Because every little thought of yours, every seemingly minor decision you made, will lead you step-by-step to fall into the manhole of your pre-destined bad fortune.
You will miss out on what I repeatedly tell you to do.
You will write wrongly, hear wrongly, remember wrongly and do wrongly.
The people around you will influence you. They will tell you not to listen to me, or any well-meaning advice to transform your destiny. They will say that you doing so is making them unhappy and uncomfortable.
You will be unwillingly to fork out money even when you can afford it. You want to live off the compassion of mine and get free help, on the empty claim that you have no money.
You will be wilful. You will be stubborn. You will think that there is no big deal about Chinese Metaphysics and that what you say matters the most in your life. Despite not having any ability or past achievement to support that fat bold claim.
Because you have already become that little string puppet, being dangled around mercilessly by your negative karma.
My sternness is to pull you away from that manhole of mishaps. Do not live your life in a blur. Do not drag your family down with you to suffer at the hands of karma.
Not everyone can stand up right again, after a really bad fall.
Who doesn't wish to be that well-liked person? But since ancient times, an overly loving mother often leads to a useless son.
In modern society, the self confidence of every man and woman tend to come from his/her career. But happiness and bliss will always come from your family.
So never ever choose to be selfish.