Kalau ayah tak ambik berat,lelaki lain akan buat..
Sampai satu masa,anak perempuan akan datang perasaan segan dengan ayah.Ada sesetengah perkara yang dia rasa cuma boleh cakap dengan mak sahaja.
Selalunya masalah ni lagi kritikal kalau waktu kecilnya ayah jarang luang masa berkualiti dengan anak-anak perempuan.
Ada tak bermaksud ada.
Tubuh ada.Tapi main handphone,tak berbual,tak tanya khabar,tak peluk cium,tak ajar mengaji,takda buat aktiviti apa pun dengan anak...sama macam tiada.
Anak-anak faham kalau ayah memang tiada dirumah.Tapi,kalau ada macam tiada,memang boleh mengundang bahaya.
Masalah kritikal ni lebih meruncing kalau sudahlah ayah jarang luang masa berkualiti bersama,anak cuma asyik ditegur dan dimarah.Mereka makin menjauh hati.
Simpan semua gadjet.Televisyen juga.
Banyakkan beraktiviti dengan anak perempuan.
Main kad,bersukan,melukis,ajar anak baiki paip,pergi pasar.
~Supaya dia tak cari aktiviti diluar rumah dengan orang lain.
Banyakkan memuji anak perempuan.
'Awak cantik'.
'Pandai masak nasi'.
'Suka tolong ibu'.
'Pandai jaga adik.'
~Supaya dia tak termakan pujian lelaki lain.
Banyakkan beli hadiah untuk anak perempuan.
Tudung,barang sekolah,mainan,barang keperluan.
~Supaya dia tak rasa ingin dengan hadiah dari tangan orang lain.
Banyakkan pegang tangan anak perempuan masa berjalan.
Di pasaraya,ke masjid,diatas jalanan,di tempat orang ramai.
~Supaya tidak lagi rasa perlu untuk dapat perlindungan dari lelaki lain.
Biasakan bergurau dan menasihati anak perempuan dengan kata-kata yang baik dan manis.
'Kakak wanita solehah'.
'Tutuplah aurat elok-elok'.
'Nanti malaikat lindung'.
'Allah sayang sebab kakak budak baik'.
~Supaya hatinya sentiasa diisi dengan tarbiah yang tak putus sebagai peringatan dari seorang ayah.
Biasakan teman anak perempuan ke tandas awam.
Tempat asing,stesyen minyak,rumah orang,pasaraya.
~Supaya dia rasa ayah sentiasa ada untuk jaga keselamatan dia.
Nampak macam dimanjakan dan tak pandai jaga diri sendiri.
Tapi ironinya...
Anak perempuan yang dekat dengan ayah selalunya lebih kuat semangat dan berani.Mereka tahu ayah mereka akan sentiasa jadi pelindung dan penyokong mereka yang paling utama.
Yang benar,
Seorang Ummi.
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If dad doesn't take weight, other men will do it..
For one time, girls will come to feelings of shame with dad. There are some things he feels can only talk to his mother.
This problem is often critical if when he was a child dad rarely spent quality time with the girls.
There is no meaning to exist.
The body exists. But playing with handphone, not chatting, not asking about news, not hugging kisses, not teaching, not doing any activity with children... same as nothing.
Kids understand that dad is not home. But, if there is nothing, it can invite danger.
This critical problem is more greedy if dad rarely spends quality time together, the child is always reprimanded and scolded. They're getting away with the heart.
Keep all the gadgets. Television as well.
Have a lot of activities with girls.
Play cards, sports, draw, teach kids to fix pipes, go to market.
~ So that he doesn't look for activities outside the house with others.
More praising the daughter.
'You are beautiful'.
'Good at cooking rice'.
'Like to help mom'.
' Be smart to take care of brother. ' '
~ So he doesn't eat other men's praise.
More gifts for girls.
Hoods, school items, toys, needs.
~ So that he doesn't feel like wanting to be gifts from other people's hands.
Hold more hands of girls while walking.
At the market, to the mosque, on the streets, in the public places.
~ In order to no longer feel the need to get protection from another man.
Get used to joking and advising a daughter with kind and sweet words.
'Solehah'.
'Cover the aurat well'.
'Later the guardian angel'.
' Allah loves you because you're a good boy '.
~ So that his heart is always filled with unbroken tarnish as a reminder from a father.
Get used to my daughter's friend to the public toilet.
Foreign places, oil stations, people's houses, supermarket.
~ So that he thinks daddy is always there to keep his safety.
Looks pampered and can't take care of yourself.
But the iron is...
Daughter close to dad is always stronger and courageous. They know their dad will always be their ultimate protector and supporter.
For real,
A Ummi.
Credit: Siti Suryani Yaakop
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