想到利益他人就是善待自己最好的方法，因為你的生命可以不斷的得到滋養；讓別人心中舒坦，就是利益自己最高明的方法。真正要做一個不俗的人就必須具備出世的風骨，要做到真正成功的人就要先學習如何善待別人。佛陀所講的愛是離開了慾望才是清淨的愛──離欲的愛──因為這裡面沒有執著和慾望。世界上也唯獨沒有自私，無貪離欲的愛才叫慈悲，所以一個人真正成功的資源是來自於慈悲。
《成功的來源是慈悲》
Compassion is the root of success
人跟人之間要建立良好的關係，不是靠臉書、電子郵件，最好也不要用電話。想像一下，當你正被一件事情所困擾，愁雲慘霧不知如何是好的時候，剛好有人來按門鈴來拜訪你，他來找你談的正好是你要尋求的答案，這時你是否會大喜出望呢？如果你正為了一個懸而未決的案子理不出頭緒而有人主動提出好的意見給你，你是否會對這個人終生難忘呢？如果你正躊躇猶豫徘徊在人生的十字路口上，正好有善知識良師益友給你幾句忠告，讓你能夠海闊天空豁然開朗，你是否心中會充滿感恩呢？做人的目標絕對不像銀行的存款為了現實利益而去累積，更不是為了給人家一滴水希望日後別人回報你整池水，而是用很自然無私無相無欲從未想過任何回報的給予。避免自己被邊緣化或孤立，最好的方式就是一切時、一切地都要不求回報的不斷不斷地給予，同時要假設當你被誤解，奸攻或有衝突的時候，你要很漂亮地把你心中早就架設好的樓梯讓別人或對手能夠姿勢優雅的走下樓梯來。想到利益他人就是善待自己最好的方法，因為你的生命可以不斷的得到滋養；讓別人心中舒坦，就是利益自己最高明的方法。真正要做一個不俗的人就必須具備出世的風骨，要做到真正成功的人就要先學習如何善待別人。佛陀所講的愛是離開了慾望才是清淨的愛──離欲的愛──因為這裡面沒有執著和慾望。世界上也唯獨沒有自私，無貪離欲的愛才叫慈悲，所以一個人真正成功的資源是來自於慈悲。
People need to establish positive relationships with each other and that can’t be done through Facebook or email. Even phone calls are not ideal. Just imagine that you are in the middle of a distressing situation and don’t know what to do. Then suddenly the doorbell rings: it’s your friend who’s come for a visit and they just happen to bring the answer for which you've been looking. Would you not feel ecstatic? If you can’t wrap your head around a perplexing problem and someone offers you a great solution, would you not remember that person for the rest of your life? If you are paralyzed by indecision at a crossroads in your life and a spiritual teacher gives you a few words of sincere advice, guiding you along the right path and enabling you to suddenly have a bright and clear perspective, would you not be full of gratitude?
Being human is not like depositing savings into a bank account and eagerly awaiting the accumulated interest, or doing a trivial favor for someone and later expecting a massive bailout in return. The true meaning of generosity is to naturally and unselfishly give, without a thought for personal gain or reward. The best way to avoid being crowded out or isolated is to give constantly, anywhere and anytime, without asking for anything in return. At the same time, leave a door open in your heart for anyone who misunderstands, attacks or causes conflict with you to find a graceful exit.
The best way to treat yourself well is by benefiting others. The best way to benefit yourself is to make others feel at ease. In these ways you will always find nourishment. To be extraordinary, you must possess the strength to look beyond the mundane world; to be successful, you must first learn to treat others well. The love about which the Buddha spoke is a pure love without expectations, desires or attachments. Only altruistic love beyond all greed and selfish desire is true compassion, and therefore compassion is the source of all success.
這是我香‧隆立嘉措小小的處事經驗。
This is just a little bit of experience that I, Shang Longrik Gyatso, would like to share with you.
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