關於 the food story member ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

“Jhol. For anyone who is curious about the rest of India or needs proper Indian flavours outside chicken tikka masala land. No pic of the Mango kulfi as it was devoured in seconds” said Geet Harris, one active member of the popular Bangkok foodies facebook group. “Great dinner and amazing host. A must go-to. I have no words to express my experience at this great new place.” boast Bangkok’s Shavinraj Gopinath, aka, “Fairy Godfather” of the Bangkok bar scene and Co-Founder / Bartender of Philtration Bar.

These were just a couple of testimonials from the many devout foodies and industry leaders seen popping up on facebook feeds of late. JHOL is a word which continues to appear on the lips and in the ears of discerning food-lovers in the gastronomy scene....
Read full story soon on BangkokFoodies.com
#BangkokFoodies #Jholbkk @jholbkk @ JHOL

整理資料發現近兩年前去某國際研討會分享 #手天使 心得時的講稿，當時把我知道的議題面向都寫進去了。貼上來給有興趣的朋友。

[[slide page 1]]
Thank you for attending this part.
I'm from Hand Angel, a non-profit organization of Taiwan.

The title of my presentation is "As a sex worker and a sex volunteer",
since I'm both a sex worker, and also attending Hand Angel as a sex volunteer.

[[slide page 2]]
Allow me to introduce my organization more,
though you may know some from what Vincent has said in the morning.

Our main tenet is sexual rights to people with disabilities.

[[slide page 3]]
This includes not only orgasm, but also the right to control one's sexuality with autonomy and without discrimination.
People know us usually because we provide limited sexual service for servere physical or visual disabilities, including females.

Hand Angel is not a registered organization in Taiwan,
since we literally provide sexual service, which is considered against public order and morals.

However, we are still able to initiative our idea on the table
because our service are free, which means we actually do not violate any law.

[[slide page 4]]
In Taiwan, the definition of "sexual transaction" includes obscene acts in exchange for monetary,
which means it's considered transactional sex even there is no sexual intercourse.
And since transactional sex is technically illegal in Taiwan,
there's no legal way for us to charge anything by providing any service which may be considered obscenity.

This is much different in other countries.
In Japan, the law prohibiting sexual transaction only applies to intercourse between one male and one female. That's why White Hands and NOIR are able to provide paid handjob. The other reason is that they seem do not locate their service as sexual transaction. We can talk about this difference later.
And in Hong Kong, there's some way for sex workers not to be punished, which is called "one-woman brothel". So the difficulty for people with disabilities to satisfy their sexual desire would be different.

I, who has been a sex worker for years -- under the table, of course -- was invited to join Hand Angel at its very beginning.
[[slide page 5]]
People keep asking me that how a sex worker would think about a free sexual service.
But before that question, I think it's more important for us to know the difference other than money.
What's the difference between a classical transactional sex and our service?

As a sex worker, I hope my customers will come back to me more and more, as many times as they can pay.
But as a member of Hand Angel, I hope the servees would not need us anymore.
In fact, I hope they don't have to come to us at the very beginning.

The reason why people with disabilities may need sexual service, is the absence of sexual resource, the resource to fulfill one's sexual desire.

This is just like other issues of disabilities.
[[slide page 6]]
Just providing a service would not resolve the structural problem.

For example, if you give food to the poor without changing their situation, you would end up finding out that they're still poor.
Now change the "food" to "sex".
If we just give our own sex to those who barely have sexual resource, we'll end up exploiting ourselves, and their bad situation still remains.

The problem is, disabled people are considered abnormal, and they have been treated as no unnecessary needs.
But what is necessary for a person to live her own life instead of just survive?
In our issue, disabled people are usually considered asexual, and seldom sexy. That's the stigma we're going to break down.

[[slide page 7]]
There are some textures talking about disabled people in love and having sex, such as "Scarlet Road", "Sex on Wheels", and "The Sessions".
However, the narrative are usually based on ableism.
Viewers usually focus on how can the service provider "bear" to have sex with disabled people, instead of seeing the obstacles disabled people encounter.

[[slide page 8]]
A feminist has said that the relationship a disabled person has is considered depending on the compassion of the other person. People think their sexuality is disgusting and only saints are able to tolerate it.

So we can see the problem is not only physical obstacles, but also how we think about intimate relationship a disabled person deserves.

[[slide page 9]]
Does Hand Angel care about intimate issue? The answer is yes.
In our service, we provide not only sexual service. Our target is not the physical orgasm, but the infinite opportunity of their own lives.
Here are two examples.

[[slide page 10]] Little Prince
Since this servee can sense nothing below his waist, a classical handjob would be meaningless.
Fortunately, we have a BDSM queen in our team.
She thought of techniques in SM to check how pain it is to the slave, and use the same trick to check how the servee's body can feel.
I have to emphasize: that was not a medical treatment, that was about communication with each other.
They were talking about the feeling of two people, instead of the body of one person.
The whole process relies on the intimacy between the sex volunteer and the servee.

[[slide page 11]] ND
"Strolling" for him was from his room to the front door of his home.
Uh, I'm not talking about he lives in a big house.
Though using an electric wheelchair, ND's finger was not powerful enough to control the device for more than 10 minutes,
which means going out alone is not possible for him.
But after applying for our service, he trained himself to "walk" longer.
Even after our service, we were told that he kept trying to leave home and meet other friends.

Another servee has tried other entertainment such as snorkeling and paragliding after our service.
He's having a more plentiful life than before, and even than me.

[[slide page 12]]
In these cases, we can see that:
First, physical orgasm is not the only purpose of a sexual service.
Secondly, libido, or desire for sexual activity, is a strong energy for people to live.

There's a continuing question for us: People can still live without sex.
[[slide page 13]]
What's so important for disabled people to have sex?
Well, I think sex is probably not important for those who can have sex easily, but the impossibility to sex or intimacy may deny the self-esteem of a person.
Sex is an important reason for most people to make friends. So on the other hand, once a person is forced to abandon the opportunity to have sex, she (or he) might lose the energy to social activities. And that's not good for mental health.

[[slide page 14]] The 3 aspects we care about
First, physical orgasm. This is not only about sex organ, but also those come from your erogenous zone.
The problem is not only that people don't know how to interact with disabled people during sex,
but also that people do not want to know how the sex would be for people with different disabilities.

Second, intimacy. The right to have a satisfying date is also important.
Let's imagine, what if a couple of lovers want to kiss each other while seeing movie in a theater, but one of them is in wheelchair so their positions are actually separated?

Third, social integration. Many people with disabilities don't have enough opportunity to make close friends. One of the reasons is that other people usually don't know how to react with disabled people. Therefore, education is important.

[[slide page 15]] Gender Equity Education
In Taiwan, gender equity education comprises 3 parts: affective education, sex education, and gay and lesbian education.
Though I also want to introduce the situation that the conservative group is raising a proposal of referendum to forbid gay and lesbian education, but that's not the issue here so I have to skip that. I hope people who are interested in Taiwan may notice that same-sex marriage is not the only issue about gender equity.

Uh, back to disability rights movement.
As an organization which cares both gender issue and disability issue, we note that even open-minded gender activists may ignore the existence of people with disabilities.
Gender equity education is never designed or applied in the point of view of the disabled.
For example, there are some materials for teaching safe sex, but people seldom think about how a blind person should know before she (or he) masturbate or have sex.

We have a servee who once masturbated in the bathroom of his home, but couldn't clean up since not knowing where his semen reached during ejaculation, and therefore shocked his sister who later used the bathroom.
And another friend bought an artificial vagina in a sex toy store. But he didn't even know he have to erect before insertion.

[[slide page 16]] female servee
People caring about gender equity keep question us: why is there only one female servee during these 5 years after our foundation?
Well, we think the answer is complicated. But the most important one is: how difficult for a female to "confess" she has sexual desire?
We all know about "slut shaming", and those terms to humiliate females by their sexuality -- such as "bitch" and "whore".
It's difficult even for able-bodied females to state their sex experience and preference.
Then it's even more difficult for disabled females to think what she herself wants.

But before sexual activity with other people, disabled females don't even know their body well.
The only female servee we have, told us she has never seen or touched her own vagina.
So we also hosted some conferences and speeches to discuss about such situation of disabled females.

[[slide page 17]] Androcentrism
This is an important issue for us. And I think it's important for those who care about sexual health of disabled people.
Though there are some textures talking about sexual desires of disabled females. To provide sexual service or even sex education to them is barely seen.
I have to admit that, even though there are more and more female members joining us, androcentrism is still not easy to get over.

[[slide page 18]] limitations
Hand Angel provides service to those with servere physical or visual disabilities.
So here comes a frequently asked question: what about others?
The main difficulty for us is that we don't know enough about the situation of other disabilities.
Of course we know that people with other disabilities also don't have enough sexual resources,
but we ourselves do not have enough resources to share, either.
That's why we also hope other people to compose other similar organization.

Meanwhile, there are some people we cannot help because of law.
Adolescents are the ones I myself care about most,
since male teenagers have overwhelming sexual desire, and that would be hell for those with upper limb disability.

However, there are always laws prohibiting youths to have sex in every country.
[[slide page 19]]
In Taiwan, it is legal to have sexual activity after 16. No matter it's intercourse or not.
But even for an organization providing free service like us, the member who communicate with sex volunteer and the servee would be punished as a broker if the servee is younger than 18.
Actually, we do have an applier who mailed us about his desire when he was 15. What we can do is tell him to wait 3 more years.

Unfortunately, being an adult does not mean your right to sex is permitted.
[[slide page 20]]
People with intellectual disability or mental disorder are also infantilized, treated as babies or angels, and considered asexual.
The dilemma is similar to what teenagers have. Their consents are not considered valid.
That is frustrating. The law to protect them from sexual violence also tortures them.

[[slide page 21]] Acrotomophilia and devotees
While talking about disabled people in love or having sex, this is also an issue we should mention.
Some people worry about that devotees are just trying to dominate or take control of the disabled people.
This is similar to MacKinnon's dominance theory and male supremacy.
Devotees are considered to have more power in the relationship, and thus disabled people have a lack of autonomy.

I think that's a stigma, too.
The dominance theory does not deny free love. It focuses on the power issue.
Thus, the problem lies still on the absence of resources disabled people deserve.
Slanders on devotees are based on the prejudice that disabled people are never sexy,
and that denies the possibility for disabled people to have plentiful sexual activity.
The whole society shall support disabled people to have their own autonomy in their relationship.

[[slide page 22]] Difficulties
Usually, people would understand sexual desire of disabled people.
But to support it publicly is another story, especially for the organizations relying on donations.
There are some social workers and parents telling us that they want to do something to help their cases and family,
but it is still an issue which could not be spoken.
It's never been easy for us to talk about sex on the table, but it should be done.
Even for those who don't agree with the idea of sexual service, I do hope you could at least support disabled people to talk about their sex and romance.

[[slide page 23]]
This ends my report. Thank you for listening.
I'm Kong, a sex volunteer of Hand Angel from Taiwan.

【離苦得樂的大法緣】(English writing below)

有些父母，還沒來得及見到自己的孩子，就得爲幼小的嬰靈「出殯」。

昨天早上，有一位我從未見過的女讀者，私訊告訴我她六週大的胚胎已離她而去。她看過我講關於墮胎和流產的臉書直播，於是問如何爲她的水子靈報名超度。

在此，提醒大家，居家內勿擺放太多水晶或風水吉祥物。這些都會影響母親受孕及懷胎，也會破壞親子關係等等。

有些東西催得了財，卻會堵住子嗣運，讓你無法添丁。擺錯了，更會讓你「丁財兩空」。

也有些案列，當夫妻事業越來越好時，會猛然發現孩子的問題卻特別多，不聽話、學業不佳、健康頻頻出狀況、迷戀不健康的東西等等。

風水這門事，需要把一個家庭所有人的八字放在一起，再配合這個居家的風水一起看，來達到最有效的方案。不是隨便買個東西，放在所謂的吉祥方位，就能發的不清不楚。千萬也別隨便推薦人家亂買。

你的八字如果承受不起，又或者那位指點你的人福德不足，那就必需從你命中的另外一環去扣。這樣才符合因果律。

所以厲害的風水師，一定會自己修得好，再盡她他全力保你闔家平安，財源滾滾。這是我們的職業道德，不能像一般人一樣「見錢眼開」，不管客人家運的安危。

清明節要到了，大家都會去拜祖先，有的會祈求祖先保佑。但祖先如果活著的時候，沒什麼修善功，死前還病苦連連，你認為她他死後化為鬼，就會有更大的能力來保佑你們龐大的家族嗎？

我看到的事實是，很多祖先自身難保，後代沒持續爲他們超度，消業增福，結果祖先後代通通都不順。

我個人不主張吃拜過祖先的食物，尤其是孕婦，因爲一般祖先屬陰，我們屬陽。把他們吃過的食物，吃進來，我們身上的陰氣鬼氣會加重。

無論是墮胎還是流產的婦女，都應該坐小月子，把身體調好，除了報名超度，也得安水子靈牌位，及修懺悔法。

如果你想：

❤️ 盡孝道幫助自己祖先往投更好的境界，
🤒 爲病重的家人祈福超度他們的纏身靈，
👶🏻 爲墮胎或流產的孩子報名超度，
❤️ 爲自己的纏身靈冤親債主報名超度解怨

我大力推薦你可以報名我根本上師聖尊蓮生活佛這個星期六，2019年3月30日，主壇的《淨土三尊清明超度護摩大法會》。

淨土三尊，即是西方三聖，教主爲「南無阿彌陀佛」，左脅侍持淨瓶的「南無觀音菩薩」和右脅侍持蓮花「南無大勢至菩薩」。

能夠「一心不亂」的唸佛，臨終時，便會有西方三聖持著蓮台來接引你，往生西方極樂世界。

做不到，臨終時，會見到鬼祖先來個welcome party, 牛頭馬面和大二爺伯。這時，就得仰賴有大法力的成就者來爲亡者超度。

我爲何相信蓮生活佛能夠幫助你？因爲我親身體驗過，我和我家人祖先的故事就寫了在這臉書文章：goo.gl/KbCcXW

欲想報名這個星期六下午三點的《淨土三尊清明超度護摩大法會》，請在今天下午五點前到台灣雷藏寺網站，註冊爲會員，使用網路報名系統報名護摩法會：

💻 台灣雷藏寺網址： ➡️ https://tbsec.org/
📩 線上報名法會➡️ https://goo.gl/TnVyyW
📩 線上報名系統說明 ➡️ https://bit.ly/2O0DlSH

如果過了截至時間，你可以下載報名超度法會表格和匯款資料，再發電郵給雷藏寺。

報名祖先可寫：
祖先姓名或例如，李（你的姓）氏歷代祖先。

報名水子靈：
XXX （母親姓名）之水子靈，地址是牌位地址或母親居住地址。

報名超度，供養隨意，但我覺得如果後代太吝嗇，祖先可能會托夢來「打屁股」吧。😄

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There are some parents who never get to see their child, and already had to make "funeral arrangement" for the young infant spirit.

Two days ago, I received a PM in the morning from a lady reader whom I had never met. She told me how her 6-week-old embryo had left her. She watched my old FB Live on abortion and miscarriage, and wanted to know how she could register for deliverance for her baby spirit.

My gentle reminder to everyone: Do not place excessive crystals and auspicious Feng Shui ornaments in your home. These can affect the chances of a healthy pregnancy, and also spoil the relations between the parents and their children.

While such objects may be able to bring in wealth, they will also obstruct the luck of having descendants. When placed in the wrong sector at home, you end up losing both money and your children.

I have also seen such cases: as the careers and wealth of the couple improve, their children woes also escalate e.g. disobedient behaviour, poor academic results, deteriorating health, unhealthy addictions etc.

A good quality Feng Shui audit requires putting together the Bazi of all the family members, with the home Feng Shui, so as to reach the most effective and efficient solutions, that do not compromise on anyone in the household.

Buying something randomly and placing it in the so-called auspicious location is not going to help you prosper like mad. Hence, do not ever recklessly recommend such objects to others.

If your Bazi is not up to it, or the person who advises you does not have sufficient merits and virtues to "transfer" to you, then the "wealth" that you gain has to be compensated by something else in your Destiny, so as to fulfil the Law of Karma.

This is why a competent Feng Shui practitioner is definitely one who cultivates him/herself well, and put in his/her best effort to ensure the safety, peace and continuous inflow of wealth for your family. Such is our professional ethic to uphold, and not to drool at the sight of money, disregarding the safety of our clients' family luck.

Qing Ming Festival is just round the corner. Many of us would be praying to our ancestors. Some will seek the blessings of our ancestors. But think about it, if your ancestor did not accumulate much virtuous deeds while alive, and suffered immensely due to sickness before his/her death, how likely is he/her be able to have greater powers to bless the entire family clan, just because he/she became a ghost?

The reality that I see is that many ancestors are having a hard time themselves in the netherworld. When their descendants do not continuously register for bardo deliverance for them, to eradicate their negative karma and increase their good fortune, both the descendants and ancestors have a hard time in their respective worlds.

By the way, I do not advocate consuming foods and drinks that have been offered to the ancestors. This goes out to ESPECIALLY pregnant ladies. Because ancestors belong to the Yin realm, while we living beings are in the Yang realm. Consuming their food will introduce excessive Yin ghostly qi in our bodies, destroying our Yang energy.

Whether the baby is lost through abortion or miscarriage, the mother should still do a short confinement to nurse her body back to better health. Apart from registering for bardo deliverance, the parents should also enshrine a tablet for the baby spirit at the temple, and cultivate repentance practice.

If you wish to:

❤️ demonstrate filial piety and help your ancestors be reborn in a better realm,
🤒 help your sickly family member to seek blessings and deliver his/her karmic creditors,
👶🏻 register for bardo deliverance for your aborted/miscarriaged child,
❤️ resolve the debt of enmity between you and your karmic creditors and sign them up for bardo deliverance,

I strongly recommend that you can register for this Saturday's, 30 March 2019, Qing Ming Bardo Deliverance Pure Land Trinity Homa Ceremony, presided by my Root Guru, His Holiness Living Buddha Lian-Sheng.

The Pure Land Trinity, otherwise known as the The Three Saints of the West, comprised of the leader Amitabha Buddha, Avalokitesvara (Guan Shi Yin) Bodhisattva on His left who holds a purification vase and willow leaves, and Mahasthamaprapta Bodhisattva on His right who holds lotus bud.

When you can recite the name of Amitabha Buddha single-mindedly, as you pass on, you will see The Three Saints of the West and the entourage of sages appearing to welcome you with your lotus throne. You will then be reborn in the Western Pure Land of Paradise.

If you cannot do it, as you die, you will see your ghostly ancestors throwing a welcome party for you, as well the Ox-Head and Horse-Face Hell Guards, and the Black and White Impermanence deities coming for you. At this time, you can only rely on the supreme transcendental powers of an accomplished cultivator to deliver the dead.

Why do I have faith that Living Buddha Lian-Sheng can help you? Because I have personally experienced it myself. The story of my family, my ancestors and myself is written in this FB article: goo.gl/KbCcXW

To register for this Saturday 3pm, Qing Ming Bardo Deliverance The Three Saints of the West Homa Ceremony, please register an account online at the website of Taiwan Lei Tsang Temple, and use the online registration system to sign up for the Homa Ceremony：

💻 Taiwan Lei Tsang Temple website： ➡️ https://tbsec.org/
📩 Online Homa Registration URL ➡️ https://goo.gl/TnVyyW
📩 Guide to Online Registration ➡️ https://bit.ly/2O0DlSH

(The deadline for online application for every Saturday's Homa Ceremony is till Friday 5pm. After which, you will have to email the temple with the downloaded forms.)

Registration for ancestors:
Name of the deceased or 李（your surname）氏歷代祖先。

Registration for fetal spirits:
XXX （name of Mother）之水子靈，
Address would be either the tablet temple address or the mother's residential address.

The donation amount for Homa Ceremony registration is entirely your choice. But in my humble opinion, if you are too stingy to your ancestors, they may very well appear in your dreams to give you a good spanking. 😄

BBファミリーの皆さん、大変お待たせいたしました。リアリティ番組の第４話です。今回の動画のテーマは、実は、大分前から皆さんにお伝えしたかった、私たち家族にとってとっても大事な過去の話しです。最後まで見ていただければと思います。

この動画はシーズン１のフィナーレです。もし、もし、「シーズン２も観たい！！」と思われる方がいらっしゃれば、是非コメントにその旨をお伝えください。

最後になりますが、今回の動画に出ていた私の会社の先輩である土田さんにHUGE THANK YOUを送りたいと思います！素敵なお家にお招き頂き、お洒落＋美味しいごはんを作って頂き、本当に感謝しています！！土田さんは本当にStylishな方なので、よかったらインスタでもフォローしてください！↓↓
https://www.instagram.com/yusuketsuchida/

また、この動画のカメラマン（Dallas Campbell）もインスタされていますので、ご興味があればフォローしてください↓↓
https://www.instagram.com/salladsoup/

今日の動画のマタニティフォトは私たちのインスタにも今日、明日、明後日にアップするので、まだフォローされていない方は是非フォローをお願いいたします！
https://www.instagram.com/bilingualbaby/

★★１０月は乳がん月間です。早期発見がとても大事ですので、２０代と３０代の女性でも、検査に行くなり、自分でも発見できるので月1回の自己触診をするなりしましょう。★★

Hello to our BB Family out there! Apologies about this episode being so late, but we are happy to announce the upload of the fourth and final episode of season 1 of our reality show. The topic of this episode is something from our past that we have been wanting to share with you for quite some time now. There’s a happy ending so please be sure to watch to the end.

This is the last episode of this season, but if you would like to see more seasons, please do let us know in the comments and we’ll see if we can swing it.

Lastly I would like to give my thanks to two wonderful people. The first is my mentor at work Tsuchida-san, who not only invited us to his home, but who also made us pretty much the best lunch I’ve ever eaten. Tsuchida-san is one of the few gourmet people that I can say I am proud of knowing. Be sure to follow him on Instagram for some delicious food and other stylish content.
www.instagram.com/yusuketsuchida/

And of course the second person I want to thank is our cameraman, sound man, light man, and Mentor-in-Chief—the always brilliant Dallas Campbell. Dallas was instrumental in the development and production of these four episodes, and we are proud to consider him like a fifth member of the our family. He’s always up to something new and exciting, so be sure to follow him on Instagram as well!
https://www.instagram.com/salladsoup/

We will be uploading the maternity photos that Dallas took onto our Instagram account today, tomorrow and Friday, so please be sure to follow us if you already aren’t.↓↓
https://www.instagram.com/bilingualbaby/

Finally, please, please remember that October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Even if you are in your twenties, you should already be regularly examining your breasts on your own so that you can become familiar enough with your body in case something is ever wrong. Sorry, I don’t mean to be preachy, but as you can imagine this topic is very near and dear to my heart.

#国際結婚　#育児

【このチャンネルについて】
子育てしている日本のママとパパたちへ！
「英語を子供に教えたいけど、どうすればいいのかわからない」と多くの日本人のママ友によーーく言われます。

私は、アメリカ人ママです。アイシャともうします。息子は2015年3月2日に生まれたアレックス君です。アレックスが大人になって、一番なってほしいことは「英語ペラペラ」ではなく、「グローバルな視野」を持っている人になってほしいです。ルールのない世界で、どの問題や壁にぶつかっても、クリエーティブ的に考えてほしいし、恥ずかがらないでどんなチャレンジを積極的に受け入れてほしいです。英語はもちろんできるだけ教えようとは思いますが、それが全てではないし、どちらかというと「楽しく英語に接触させながら、面白い世界（もうはや壁のない世界）を見せたいと思います。」

このチャンネルには、子供に教えれる英語ビデオもアップしますし、外国の育児方法や想像力とコミュニケーション力を伸ばすゲームについてのビデオもたくさん投稿したいと思います。

日本の子育て　VS　外国の子育て方針についてもビデオを投稿したいと思います。

では、楽しく子供と英会話しながら、世界の子育てなどについて一緒に学びましょう♪